Wednesday, October 18, 2017

Me too

#MeToo is all over the social media.  After the bravery of a few women to call out, legally, sexually predatory behaviour by Hollywood producer Harvey Weinstein, many others came forward to reveal that they too, had been assaulted by Weinstein, by others.  #MeToo is shorthand for "I too, have been sexually assaulted, or harassed, or abused,"  and the volume, the every-other-Facebook-post number was  staggering.  And it wasn't.  I am sure I have never met a woman who has not been the object of unwelcome sexual attention.  It's normal.  I don't mean it's acceptable, it isn't.  But it has become part of who we are.  It is an understood plot feature of the female narrative.  I have never shared my stories, not sure if there is value in sharing them, in fact.  I have forgiven, and I think I'll go back to forgetting, too.

My #MeToo stories are mine.  I don't want to share them but that does NOT mean they are any less real than the stories of those who DO choose to share.  Not sharing doesn't make me less of a woman, it doesn't take away my power, and it doesn't make my abusers, my assaulter, or my harassers less culpable.

#MeToo?  Yes, me too.  My stories, my terms.

Monday, October 16, 2017

Done. :)

 This is Rhoda's quilt, and it's DONE!  I'll hand it off today, with my best wishes.  $53 in materials (yay sales and coupons!) and about 22 hours of my time.  As I've said, it's not really my style, I'm not a sampler kind of quilter, but it was fun to stretch a little.  I'm not sure if the picture of the quilting on the back enlarges, but I really am pretty pleased with the free hand center part. 

It did soften up in the wash, and puckered up sufficiently to sink the quilting thread into the quilt so it's not so obvious.  I like it. 

Today I picked up a batt for Juli's quilt, and I'm sure I have enough of something for the back.  I doubt I'll get to it this week, maybe next weekend, though.  Unless the weather insists I keep going on the yard.  Last day to mail to Canada... dunno.  But I'll find out.

Sunday, October 15, 2017


I found these very tiny succulents in my garden Saturday.  I don't know what they are, some sort of sedum, I suspect.  Maybe a volunteer, maybe a hitchhiker that caught a ride on something else I planted.  I love them!  I was busy with the fall cut down, rake out clean up and discovered these sweet babies in a weedy patch of dianthus.  I found a few others a foot or so away.  For scale those dead pine needles are about three inches long, they're teeny!  And I could have so easily raked them out without even noticing.

But I noticed.

It was the voice, the reminder to Slow Down.  And I did.  I made time to just be this weekend.  I sat beside water and drank coffee outside.  I weeded by hand and I spent some time contemplating the beauty of the ten million box elder bugs that have descended on out tiny town.  They're really very beautiful.  And abundant.

Thursday, October 12, 2017

I tend...

I get a daily dose of Gretchen Rubin's Happiness Project in my feed reader.  The other day, she offered a link to a quiz to determine which of her Four Tendency categories you most likely fit into.  I'm an Upholder, apparently.

An Upholder accepts rules, whether from outside or inside. An upholder meets deadlines, follows doctor’s order, keeps a New Year’s resolution.  Upholders respond readily to outer and inner expectations.
Yeah, that's me.

I make a menu, I follow it.  I make a To Do list, I check off those boxes.  It's what works for me, and without those parameters, I flounder.  Nothing motivates me like a deadline.  Or a finish line.  And I'm really okay with that.

The quilt I posted yesterday, Rhoda's quilt is for the sister of a (let's say) friend.  I don't know Rhoda well, at all, but I have met her and I like her.  When I discovered that she was getting married at the end of the month, my finish line appeared.  And yes, I will be done in time.  All the machine quilting is done, the binding is attached and needs only to be hand sewn to the back.  It's one of my most favorite parts of the process.  I'm not sure how it's going to go without my assistant, though.  I miss you, Beanie.  320(ish) inches of hand stitching, a run through the washer and dryer, a bow and a card, and done.

Next up is Juli's quilt, and it is getting the fastest of finishes.  No fancy quilting on this one.  The design won't be diminished by an allover meander, and she won't care.  I'll move beyond the hard feelings, and all will be well.  I need to look up the last day for shipping to Canada to make it for Christmas.  That'll be that deadline.  And then?  Dunno.

I do know.  This nonsense.

Tuesday, October 10, 2017

TBT 14543

I noticed today I have a few DRAFT posts that were never published.  Let's revisit.  This one is from November 2004.  Oops.  And look at that, 13 years later, and not a thing has changed.  Imagine that.  I do not know what the title 14543 means. TBT is Throwback Tuesday; bucking convention.  Why not?

  "I think it is fair to say that I believe we've got a great chance to establish a Palestinian state," George Jr. said. "And I intend to use the next four years to spend the capital of the United States on such a state."

How 'bout "Mind your own business?" The US has no business whatsoever interfering in the middle east. Maybe a little less meddling by the western world might have prevented so much of the terror and death that is a daily part of life on the east coast of the Mediterranean. A little history as I understand it (and trust me, there's plenty about this I might have wrong.) Palestinians and Jews have inhabited the area we call the Middle East for thousands of years. Before there was a USA, before there was England, and France and Germany and Russia and Switzerland there was habitation around the east end of the Mediterranean Sea. Christians, Jews and Muslims all believe life began here. Evolutionists suspect life began here. From the earliest recorded history, there has been war here. Jews believe their God gave this land to them, Israel. Muslims believe THEIR God gave it to them, Palestine. Ahem, guys? Same God. The old testament God of Abraham is common to both religions. Abraham had a son, Ismael, with his mistress Hagar - Palestinians trace their history to Ismael. Abraham had a second son, Isaac. Jews trace their history to Isaac. But hey look, same grand-dad.

Seems to me this has become a great big bloody game of "Who's Dad's Favourite?" In gallop the Christians on their white steeds and declare that since the Jews have been so badly treated through history, we'll set them up in their own homeland. Really? And where does that leave the Palestinians, the other brother in this stupid game? Have THEY not been treated badly? Where does the western world get the right to say that God loves the children of Israel better than the children of Mohammed?

On May 14, 1948 the US jumped up to officially recognized the existence of the State of Israel within hours of Ben-Gurrion's declaring its existence. The Jews reclaimed the land they believe God gave them, throwing out God's other children, the Palestinians (who incidently ALSO believe God gave it to them). It was a tug of war before that, it's been a tug of war since then, and the meddling on the part of the western world has not changed that one bit.

George, you can use this "capital" you claim to have earned in the last election to create a Palestinian state. More power to ya, pal, it's a lofty goal. Pipe dream, actually. The creation of a Palestinian state isn't going to change the state of the Middle East. The government of Israel might agree to it, the leaders of the Palestinians might agree to it, but the people will not be happy. Israel will not respect Palestine's claims to ANY territory, just as Palestinians refuse to recognize Israel's right to exist. The kids are gonna keep fighting, and there is no amount of candy you can buy that will stop them.

Monday, September 25, 2017

Further to yesterday

Almost immediately after hitting PUBLISH on yesterday's post, I came across this Click here The article suggests that spending money to save time brings more happiness than spending money on stuff.  I'm on board! 

I spend at least half of my weekend, probably more, doing chores - laundry is HUGE.  And I do it, because on Saturday and Sunday, I can hang them on the clothesline, and save money on power by not running the dryer.  Earlier today, I decided if I did a load overnight once or twice during the week, threw it in the dryer in the morning, I'd be caught up, and I'd get my weekend back!  This article just confirmed my thinking is on point. 

Now, though, the trick is to use all that free time to do nothing.  The right side of my brain is screaming for attention, I need to slow down and take care of that.